How to Love when Life is Short
To those broken hearted,They say it takes
a minute to find a special person,
an hour to appreciate them,
a day to love them,
but then an entire life to forget them.
A quote that a friend forwarded in Facebook reminded myself of what I have gone through in my own life and maybe most of us. Well, I do agree with this quote, but the time stated maybe too fast. It takes MORE time to recognize a special person than a minute and even more time to love a person as relationship these days are mostly open ended or with optimistic hopes.
However, it does not mean that it takes YEARS to know love. I am not an expert but if you are heartbroken or hopeless in your current long-term relationship, it would not take long to recognize a special person when they come by. But to leave your old relationship and then LOVE another person is a big decision that either you will regret or be glad to have done it.
Know that if you had been left behind, be glad that they did not leave you when you were already married or worst with children. To be with somebody is to accept them as how they are now and how they will be in the future. However, always remember that every relationship needs fuel to ignite and maintain the fire. Forgetting this will contribute to the the changes in our spouse behavior in the future. Ask if you do not know how your partner feels about you and always remind your partner how you feel. Remember actions always speak louder than word and the biggest mistake is to say it while your actions contradicts. Being honest in a relationship is everything. Keeping secrets is a big headache and will always come back to haunt you.
However, let us be reminded that the BEST relationship, by definition of Islam, is MARRIAGE itself. In Islam, there is a guide to everything (except doing bad things). Characteristics for a good husband or wife are all in the internet (make sure you verify with a Muslim Scholar). This guide can be use for us to find a good potential partner or parents to relive the old ways of proposing suitable partners for their children. Islam is always fair, an a child always has the right to say NO, and no parents has the right to force upon them to accept any marriage proposal.
It might be hard to follow since most of us are brought up differently in a globalized new world order where DATING is common and not giving a chance to do so is INJUSTICE. Furthermore, there is a term called Islamophobia that was introduced after 9/11 which make it harder for us to accept Islamic Teachings.
But just remember, there is always God and He is always with you. However, this applies to good servants only. In Islam, whoever starts to believe (or we Muslim rather call it Revert) are considered good servants as like a new born baby with no knowledge of the righteous path. Whoever who is Islam by name but does not believe are no different than sinners.
Know that there are too MANY things to do in this short time we call life and most of the times, you find your partner unexpectedly when you are not looking. Whatever it is, that is the more reason Muslim need to PERFECT their prayer in seeking guidance for the right (straight) path. Prayer or Solat is one of the pillar of Islam and it's meant to be a reminder for humans towards their obligations towards God and the world itself. Always believe that there is a higher force that will help although it may seem impossible as there is none for God.
Thanks for reading so far. Hope this short post helps you in your life.
Here is another good article to read: Falling in Love: Allowed in Islam?
Know that if you had been left behind, be glad that they did not leave you when you were already married or worst with children. To be with somebody is to accept them as how they are now and how they will be in the future. However, always remember that every relationship needs fuel to ignite and maintain the fire. Forgetting this will contribute to the the changes in our spouse behavior in the future. Ask if you do not know how your partner feels about you and always remind your partner how you feel. Remember actions always speak louder than word and the biggest mistake is to say it while your actions contradicts. Being honest in a relationship is everything. Keeping secrets is a big headache and will always come back to haunt you.
However, let us be reminded that the BEST relationship, by definition of Islam, is MARRIAGE itself. In Islam, there is a guide to everything (except doing bad things). Characteristics for a good husband or wife are all in the internet (make sure you verify with a Muslim Scholar). This guide can be use for us to find a good potential partner or parents to relive the old ways of proposing suitable partners for their children. Islam is always fair, an a child always has the right to say NO, and no parents has the right to force upon them to accept any marriage proposal.
It might be hard to follow since most of us are brought up differently in a globalized new world order where DATING is common and not giving a chance to do so is INJUSTICE. Furthermore, there is a term called Islamophobia that was introduced after 9/11 which make it harder for us to accept Islamic Teachings.
But just remember, there is always God and He is always with you. However, this applies to good servants only. In Islam, whoever starts to believe (or we Muslim rather call it Revert) are considered good servants as like a new born baby with no knowledge of the righteous path. Whoever who is Islam by name but does not believe are no different than sinners.
Know that there are too MANY things to do in this short time we call life and most of the times, you find your partner unexpectedly when you are not looking. Whatever it is, that is the more reason Muslim need to PERFECT their prayer in seeking guidance for the right (straight) path. Prayer or Solat is one of the pillar of Islam and it's meant to be a reminder for humans towards their obligations towards God and the world itself. Always believe that there is a higher force that will help although it may seem impossible as there is none for God.
Thanks for reading so far. Hope this short post helps you in your life.
Here is another good article to read: Falling in Love: Allowed in Islam?